cholifut asked: What do you think of the idea that a major problem people have with feminism is the term itself? Some friends and I feel humanism is less threatening to the people who are not willing to look past prejudices, as well as separate it from extremists.
Humanism, while wonderful in itself, can sometimes feel like a copout in terms of racism and feminism to me. It feels like denying years and years of systematic oppression and just going “hey, let’s all just be cool and work hard and value everyone!”, like somehow we’ll all burst into flames if we talk about its existence. Again, nothing inherently wrong with the concept of humanism, but something about the people who constantly say that humanism is better than feminism smacks of gaslighting women to me. It feels like those people you get into heated conversations with who spend the whole time going “Did I say that exactly? Did I? OK THEN.” rather than discussing anything real.
I believe in humanism and think it has a ton of merit, but I don’t think that feminism means that somehow we aren’t valuing all humans equally. It’s acknowledging that some humans are placed behind the starting line for reasons that have nothing to do with their own agency. Hear me: that doesn’t mean giving those humans any favors or pity as a result. That doesn’t mean dwelling on that systematic oppression and complaining that the world is unfair. Rather, it means being aware of that oppression so that we don’t continue to push those who are oppressed further and further back from the starting line.
No one is asking for favors in feminism. We’re just asking for the centuries-old mindset of the world to, on its own humanistic agency, evolve just a bit.
"Politeness is another word for deception,"
I want to stop being the type of person who only hurts the ones I love. Happiness doesn’t come that way.